4.3 Apply the use of positive self-talk to manage strong feelings
4.4 Describe strategies to manage strong feelings, including anger
METS-S/NETS-T
Creativity and Innovation
B. Create original works as a means of personal or group expression.
Essential Questions:
How do you manage your feelings?
How can you stay calm in a stressful situation?
Why do you think people believe the negative things people say about you them?
Objectives:
Using the internet site wordle.com the students will design a poster using only positive adjectives that describe themselves. Each student should use a minimum of 20 words to describe themselves.
Tools and Resources:
Computer
Printer
www.wordle.com
Constructions paper
Glue
Rationale:
How we handle ourselves in a stressful situation can determine whether the situation will have a positive or negative outcome. Therefore, it is important to have strategies in place to manage our feelings. In addition, it is important to use positive self-talk when we are managing our feeling so that we don’t fall in a trap of developing a negative self-image.
Anticipatory Questions/Activity:
Boys and girls if you have ever felt so excited you couldn’t stand still, I want you to stomp your feet.
If you have ever felt so angry you wanted to get back at someone, make a really angry face.
If you have ever felt so sad that you thought all you could do was cry, rub your eyes.
I bet we have all had these experiences from time to time. All of these feeling are okay.
Body of Lesson Plan: Segment #1
(Artifact: link to real world, website, book, picture, etc.)
Today we will be talking about emotions and how we can use self-control to calm down when we are having strong feelings.
Let’s take a look at the board for a moment. I have put together some pictures for us to look at. As the pictures appear on the screen tell me the emotion you think the person is feeling?
Play PowerPoint presentation- Emotions powerpoint presentation
Image 1- Happy
Image 2- Angry
Image 3- Surprised
Image 4- Calm
These are the four main emotions that we experience, happy, angry, surprised, and calm. There are different levels of each of these emotions.
Make a chart on the board with each of the 4 categories and have students come to the board and write another word describing the category.
As you can see, each of these emotions comes in varying degrees.
Take for example the words irritated and furious can you see the difference? Furious shows a higher level of anger than irritated.
What are some ways you can tell if you’re having a strong feeling?
Facial Expressions
Tone of voice
Tight muscles
Upset stomach
Low energy
Too much energy
Fast heart rate
Crying
Today we are going to be talking about ways to manage these strong feelings.
It’s is okay to have these emotions. However, the trouble comes when we let our emotions get the better of us and we react without thinking. L
Can anyone tell us about a time when you had a situation that got worse because of the way you reacted?
Another thing we will be talking about is not letting our emotions and other people control how we feel about ourselves and how using positive self-talk can make ourselves feel better.
Segment #2
(Factual information/Vocab
Includes sample feedback loop)
Boys and girls when you are having strong feelings there are steps you can take to help you stay in control.
A- Acknowledge to yourself how you are feeling
C- Calm down
T- Talk it out
Let’s start with the first letter of our acronym ACT, letter A. Acknowledge to yourself you are feeling.
That means taking a minute to figure out how you really are feeling. Do you feel angry, hurt, scared? Many times we can have more than one feeling at the same time. Knowing exactly what you’re feeling will help when we get to letter T.
Next we will look at letter C. Calm down.
When we are not calm we have a tendency to overreact.
With a show of hands, have any of you ever overreacted?
Who would like to share an idea on ways we can calm ourselves down?
Tell yourself, “I need to take a minute and settle down.”
Sit down or move away from the situation for a minute
Count to 10
Lay your head on your desk.
Find a quiet activity to do for a few minutes, read, draw or listen to music.
Talk with a trusted friend or adult about your feelings.
What are some things people do when they are very upset or angry that might make the situation worse?
Call names, hit someone, say nothing but stay mad and lose a friend.
There are better, more respectful ways to handle difficult situations.
Now let’s talk about our last letter T. T stands for talk it out.
Here are some tips for talking it out:
First make sure you are calmed down.
Then use I-messages rather than You messages.
I messages are statements like I felt, I don’t like it when…
When you use You statements like, you weren’t being a good friend it make the other person feel like you are attacking them. This will only complicate the situation further.
Many times when we are feeling these strong emotions it is the result of someone’s actions against us. Possibly someone left you out of a game on the playground or you heard someone say something mean about you.
It is important when people say negative things about you that you don’t believe what they say.
Each and every one of us is special and unique in our own unique way. That is what makes the world and our classroom so incredible. We all bring different, talents, personalities, abilities to the world and one is not better than the other. We must learn be more accepting of people and their differences.
Many times I hear people say things like, “I’m so stupid, I’m such an idiot, I’m ugly, “I’m not good at sports.
These are all examples of negative self-talk and can be very harmful.
Let’s look at this scenario for a moment. You’re running, having fun on the playground. Suddenly you trip and fall in front of some students you’d like to be friends with. You might say to yourself, “I’m so clumsy! Now they’ll never be friends with me.”
How do you think you might feel if you said that to yourself?
Ashamed, anxious, embarrassed, left out, sad, angry
Raise your hand if you think you can use self-control to change the negative self-talk into positive self-talk.
When you notice yourself thinking negative thoughts you could instead say, I’m not clumsy, I just tripped. Everyone trips from time to time. It’s really not big deal.
Do you see how using self-control to control your actions and your thoughts will produce better outcomes?
Let’s review what we have learned today about our emotions and about using self-control to manage difficult situations.
Emotions are ok
Acknowledge your feelings
Calm down
Talk it out using I messages.
Demonstrate self-control by using positive self- talk rather than negative self-talk.
We are going to be doing a project to practice using positive self-talk.
Today we will be using a website called Wordle.com.
Wordle.com is a website that can be used to create an interesting piece of word art.
You select the words and wordle jumbles them up and rearranges your words in interesting patterns.
Segment #4
(Detailed directions on how to complete activity)
Take out a piece of paper.
Number the paper from 1-20
Make a list of 20 positive adjectives to describe you.
Such as beautiful, smart, kind, generous, funny, etc.
If you are having a hard time coming up with 20 you can walk around the room and ask your friends or me for some suggestions.
To learn how to use wordle.com I have provided a brief Jing Video: How to Create a Wordle Picture for your reference.
When your list is completed you will go to the computer and type in the url box www.wordle.com
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4.4 Describe strategies to manage strong feelings, including anger
B. Create original works as a means of personal or group expression.
How can you stay calm in a stressful situation?
Why do you think people believe the negative things people say about you them?
Printer
www.wordle.com
Constructions paper
Glue
If you have ever felt so angry you wanted to get back at someone, make a really angry face.
If you have ever felt so sad that you thought all you could do was cry, rub your eyes.
I bet we have all had these experiences from time to time. All of these feeling are okay.
Segment #1
(Artifact: link to real world, website, book, picture, etc.)
Let’s take a look at the board for a moment. I have put together some pictures for us to look at. As the pictures appear on the screen tell me the emotion you think the person is feeling?
Play PowerPoint presentation- Emotions powerpoint presentation
Image 1- Happy
Image 2- Angry
Image 3- Surprised
Image 4- Calm
These are the four main emotions that we experience, happy, angry, surprised, and calm. There are different levels of each of these emotions.
Make a chart on the board with each of the 4 categories and have students come to the board and write another word describing the category.
As you can see, each of these emotions comes in varying degrees.
Take for example the words irritated and furious can you see the difference? Furious shows a higher level of anger than irritated.
What are some ways you can tell if you’re having a strong feeling?
- Facial Expressions
- Tone of voice
- Tight muscles
- Upset stomach
- Low energy
- Too much energy
- Fast heart rate
- Crying
Today we are going to be talking about ways to manage these strong feelings.It’s is okay to have these emotions. However, the trouble comes when we let our emotions get the better of us and we react without thinking. L
Can anyone tell us about a time when you had a situation that got worse because of the way you reacted?
Another thing we will be talking about is not letting our emotions and other people control how we feel about ourselves and how using positive self-talk can make ourselves feel better.
(Factual information/Vocab
Includes sample feedback loop)
A- Acknowledge to yourself how you are feeling
C- Calm down
T- Talk it out
Let’s start with the first letter of our acronym ACT, letter A. Acknowledge to yourself you are feeling.
That means taking a minute to figure out how you really are feeling. Do you feel angry, hurt, scared? Many times we can have more than one feeling at the same time. Knowing exactly what you’re feeling will help when we get to letter T.
Next we will look at letter C. Calm down.
When we are not calm we have a tendency to overreact.
With a show of hands, have any of you ever overreacted?
Who would like to share an idea on ways we can calm ourselves down?
- Tell yourself, “I need to take a minute and settle down.”
- Sit down or move away from the situation for a minute
- Count to 10
- Lay your head on your desk.
- Find a quiet activity to do for a few minutes, read, draw or listen to music.
- Talk with a trusted friend or adult about your feelings.
What are some things people do when they are very upset or angry that might make the situation worse?- Call names, hit someone, say nothing but stay mad and lose a friend.
There are better, more respectful ways to handle difficult situations.Now let’s talk about our last letter T. T stands for talk it out.
Here are some tips for talking it out:
- First make sure you are calmed down.
- Then use I-messages rather than You messages.
I messages are statements like I felt, I don’t like it when…When you use You statements like, you weren’t being a good friend it make the other person feel like you are attacking them. This will only complicate the situation further.
Many times when we are feeling these strong emotions it is the result of someone’s actions against us. Possibly someone left you out of a game on the playground or you heard someone say something mean about you.
It is important when people say negative things about you that you don’t believe what they say.
Each and every one of us is special and unique in our own unique way. That is what makes the world and our classroom so incredible. We all bring different, talents, personalities, abilities to the world and one is not better than the other. We must learn be more accepting of people and their differences.
Many times I hear people say things like, “I’m so stupid, I’m such an idiot, I’m ugly, “I’m not good at sports.
These are all examples of negative self-talk and can be very harmful.
Let’s look at this scenario for a moment. You’re running, having fun on the playground. Suddenly you trip and fall in front of some students you’d like to be friends with. You might say to yourself, “I’m so clumsy! Now they’ll never be friends with me.”
How do you think you might feel if you said that to yourself?
- Ashamed, anxious, embarrassed, left out, sad, angry
Raise your hand if you think you can use self-control to change the negative self-talk into positive self-talk.- When you notice yourself thinking negative thoughts you could instead say, I’m not clumsy, I just tripped. Everyone trips from time to time. It’s really not big deal.
Do you see how using self-control to control your actions and your thoughts will produce better outcomes?Let’s review what we have learned today about our emotions and about using self-control to manage difficult situations.
- Emotions are ok
- Acknowledge your feelings
- Calm down
- Talk it out using I messages.
- Demonstrate self-control by using positive self- talk rather than negative self-talk.
We are going to be doing a project to practice using positive self-talk.(Includes multiple intelligence strategy:
Hands-on, small groups, reteaching strategy)
Wordle.com is a website that can be used to create an interesting piece of word art.
You select the words and wordle jumbles them up and rearranges your words in interesting patterns.
(Detailed directions on how to complete activity)
- Take out a piece of paper.
- Number the paper from 1-20
- Make a list of 20 positive adjectives to describe you.
Such as beautiful, smart, kind, generous, funny, etc.If you are having a hard time coming up with 20 you can walk around the room and ask your friends or me for some suggestions.
To learn how to use wordle.com I have provided a brief Jing Video: How to Create a Wordle Picture for your reference.